I’ve definitely lived this! From 2020-2022 my coaching business hit the multiple 6 figure mark annually, my husband quit his job, and we traveled full-time in our RV around the US. It was lovely and wonderful…until it wasn’t. I didn’t really believe that men and women have separate roles and I thought we could interchange. It didn’t work, even as open-minded as we were about the whole thing.
The truth is that my husband (and many husbands of my high-earning online biz mama friends have shared) have a hard time not providing in a dynamic, financial way. There is something biological about going out and hunting for the family that is missed when mama is the provider and daddy is there as support.
Ultimately, it didn’t work for us and even the big bucks (and promise of a 7 figure business being right around the corner) wasn’t enough to keep pushing this direction.
I have lots to say on this topic (that perhaps I’ll share in later posts.) I don’t mean to discourage any mothers who dream of this. I’ve just been to the other side of this and it’s not what I thought it would be.
Yeh I can imagine - I’ve seen it be very damaging many times. But I’ve also seen it flourish. I’m just offering some words to the conservative mums who are resisting a new shape if God is calling them to it. Personally, my husband is the breadwinner and we like it that way. But I also know many families who work around the mummas biz and the man is still Very much leading.
Also I have written about exactly ^^ this last year in a piece about biological living- what I witnessed as a high earner in NWM a decade ago so I totally hear you.
But for example, I have a friend who has a homeopathy empire (truly). She is the most soft, nurturing woman. Her husband tends the land, the physical labour, also a lot of their boys activities (biologically, boys need their dad around a lot more after the age of 6)…. He does the ‘hunting’ you speak of that is biological. When I witness them— they are very much in their biological roles.
I have also seen men who can financially provide but can’t provide any skills for protection or provision at home- eg. They have a white collar job, but if apocalypse happened, the wife would probably have more real life survival skills.
Whereas I think of my friends whose husbands work the land and build the home— yes her business is popping off, but he is very much the one who has the skills for the families survival.
This is what I mean by it’s not just the money . I share these observations as someone whose husband is absolutely the provider, and as a woman who had an 8 fig business too.
I have been very dogmatic in my thinking in this area… once I started having more conservative values and also studying formally the biologically diffs between men and women— but then I see real life examples of families who are absolutely thriving in their biological roles even if the woman’s business is earning…. And that evidence is what inspired me to write this piece.
Sure, it can be a total flop for some families. But it can be a total blessing too. Xxxx
I’ve definitely lived this! From 2020-2022 my coaching business hit the multiple 6 figure mark annually, my husband quit his job, and we traveled full-time in our RV around the US. It was lovely and wonderful…until it wasn’t. I didn’t really believe that men and women have separate roles and I thought we could interchange. It didn’t work, even as open-minded as we were about the whole thing.
The truth is that my husband (and many husbands of my high-earning online biz mama friends have shared) have a hard time not providing in a dynamic, financial way. There is something biological about going out and hunting for the family that is missed when mama is the provider and daddy is there as support.
Ultimately, it didn’t work for us and even the big bucks (and promise of a 7 figure business being right around the corner) wasn’t enough to keep pushing this direction.
I have lots to say on this topic (that perhaps I’ll share in later posts.) I don’t mean to discourage any mothers who dream of this. I’ve just been to the other side of this and it’s not what I thought it would be.
Yeh I can imagine - I’ve seen it be very damaging many times. But I’ve also seen it flourish. I’m just offering some words to the conservative mums who are resisting a new shape if God is calling them to it. Personally, my husband is the breadwinner and we like it that way. But I also know many families who work around the mummas biz and the man is still Very much leading.
Also I have written about exactly ^^ this last year in a piece about biological living- what I witnessed as a high earner in NWM a decade ago so I totally hear you.
But for example, I have a friend who has a homeopathy empire (truly). She is the most soft, nurturing woman. Her husband tends the land, the physical labour, also a lot of their boys activities (biologically, boys need their dad around a lot more after the age of 6)…. He does the ‘hunting’ you speak of that is biological. When I witness them— they are very much in their biological roles.
I have also seen men who can financially provide but can’t provide any skills for protection or provision at home- eg. They have a white collar job, but if apocalypse happened, the wife would probably have more real life survival skills.
Whereas I think of my friends whose husbands work the land and build the home— yes her business is popping off, but he is very much the one who has the skills for the families survival.
This is what I mean by it’s not just the money . I share these observations as someone whose husband is absolutely the provider, and as a woman who had an 8 fig business too.
I have been very dogmatic in my thinking in this area… once I started having more conservative values and also studying formally the biologically diffs between men and women— but then I see real life examples of families who are absolutely thriving in their biological roles even if the woman’s business is earning…. And that evidence is what inspired me to write this piece.
Sure, it can be a total flop for some families. But it can be a total blessing too. Xxxx