Thank you Peta for bringing the real talk in a heartfelt earnest way as you always do. 💗
Long ago I was in a relationship with a man who acted jealous and sulky every time I achieved a raise or a promotion. That felt awful and for many reasons that relationship ended.
In contrast, my late husband took quiet joy in providing. My epitaph for him is "always quietly saving the day" because his normal state was watching out for things that caused me stress and solving them and then he was baffled by my appreciation. I found this whole dynamic very grounding and heartwarming. And whenever I achieved a raise, promotion, client rave review, my late husband celebrated me as a person and considered my wins as a personal overcoming because he had heard all the difficulties and breakthroughs every night along the way. How I loved being TeamErnst💛💛💛💛.
Thank you for pointing out this honorable beautiful dynamic in your recent 2 essays. I believe it's important to our masculine and feminine souls to find ways to honor and celebrate one another and be true to our own divine blueprint.
I love this so much, I am the breadwinner in our family. It has taken time to balance but we made this choice so my husband wasn’t working away and can pick up the kids from school.
❤️ home every night as a family
❤️ afternoons spent on our farm and not after school care
❤️ I love my job and it doesn’t require long hours or highly stressful
It works for us but it took time for my husband to realize his purpose is still there just different now.
I sent this to Matt as a reminder of why I fell in love with him and what I admire in him. Your observations put my heart and thoughts about what it means to be a man and a husband so beautifully into words. We’re raising Banjo so one day he embodies this as he grows into a man. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
have been trying to articulate this professional mentorship/nurturing role I have
the way I describe this role to my wife is she knows what to do 98% of the time, so I yield leadership to her except when shit gets FUBAR. that is the only reason I exist for her and I'm perfectly content with that
thank you for the permission structure to speak out loud that my role is to be a biological protector to her and a nurturing mentor to any human that she points out 💙
shout out - https://substack.com/@brittanymichaud/note/c-181284030 (sorry I'm still figuring out the mechanics of this website). I would have never found what I knew I didnt know without that weird superpower that mothers have...the eyes in the back of their head and memories across space and time...to see through an (36) old man barking in the wind
hope that you can extend grace to the current chaos of my WIP profile while I continue coming online on this website and grin and bear it though another change in my healthcare medication (disclaimer that it is acute, chemistry related and fucking intense - but ik I got this)
Thank you so much Michael!! And re: your inbox msg, i currently dont have a paid subscription, it's on pause. But if that changes I will let you know :)
Rosie someone wrote a long email to me but there was a bit at the end I think for you, it said: Your artist partner is what he needs to be and you both have the adaptivity and creativity to find a fit that see you both have your needs met and your lives thrive. ❤️❤️
Thank you Peta for bringing the real talk in a heartfelt earnest way as you always do. 💗
Long ago I was in a relationship with a man who acted jealous and sulky every time I achieved a raise or a promotion. That felt awful and for many reasons that relationship ended.
In contrast, my late husband took quiet joy in providing. My epitaph for him is "always quietly saving the day" because his normal state was watching out for things that caused me stress and solving them and then he was baffled by my appreciation. I found this whole dynamic very grounding and heartwarming. And whenever I achieved a raise, promotion, client rave review, my late husband celebrated me as a person and considered my wins as a personal overcoming because he had heard all the difficulties and breakthroughs every night along the way. How I loved being TeamErnst💛💛💛💛.
Thank you for pointing out this honorable beautiful dynamic in your recent 2 essays. I believe it's important to our masculine and feminine souls to find ways to honor and celebrate one another and be true to our own divine blueprint.
Love
Robin
That is so beautiful Robin ❤️ thank you for sharing
I love this so much, I am the breadwinner in our family. It has taken time to balance but we made this choice so my husband wasn’t working away and can pick up the kids from school.
❤️ home every night as a family
❤️ afternoons spent on our farm and not after school care
❤️ I love my job and it doesn’t require long hours or highly stressful
It works for us but it took time for my husband to realize his purpose is still there just different now.
This is beautiful, honey. 🥰 saw my family a lot in this post
I sent this to Matt as a reminder of why I fell in love with him and what I admire in him. Your observations put my heart and thoughts about what it means to be a man and a husband so beautifully into words. We’re raising Banjo so one day he embodies this as he grows into a man. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
aw babes, love you. Little banjo, mini matt XXX
I have been looking for this article for months 💯
have been trying to articulate this professional mentorship/nurturing role I have
the way I describe this role to my wife is she knows what to do 98% of the time, so I yield leadership to her except when shit gets FUBAR. that is the only reason I exist for her and I'm perfectly content with that
thank you for the permission structure to speak out loud that my role is to be a biological protector to her and a nurturing mentor to any human that she points out 💙
shout out - https://substack.com/@brittanymichaud/note/c-181284030 (sorry I'm still figuring out the mechanics of this website). I would have never found what I knew I didnt know without that weird superpower that mothers have...the eyes in the back of their head and memories across space and time...to see through an (36) old man barking in the wind
hope that you can extend grace to the current chaos of my WIP profile while I continue coming online on this website and grin and bear it though another change in my healthcare medication (disclaimer that it is acute, chemistry related and fucking intense - but ik I got this)
Thank you so much Michael!! And re: your inbox msg, i currently dont have a paid subscription, it's on pause. But if that changes I will let you know :)
What if I married an artist with lots of beauty and poetry but very few practical skills and very sporadic earning??
Rosie someone wrote a long email to me but there was a bit at the end I think for you, it said: Your artist partner is what he needs to be and you both have the adaptivity and creativity to find a fit that see you both have your needs met and your lives thrive. ❤️❤️
Thank you x
Sounds like a story and experience that can only be shared by you, not me :) I know many men who are similarly gifted xx