I deleted IG off my phone 6 weeks ago after feeling intensely suffocated by it. All the rules for growing a business had me in a strangle hold. It’s been so freeing being off there - and not at all shocking that finding a circle where I get to be with real women in real life talking about real shit has felt like a balm on my soul, not to mention opened more doors for my business than anything IG has offered up. I can feel it’s time coming to an end… and I’m happy to say it’s a funeral I’m eagerly anticipating. Thanks for saying it how it is Peta.
I got off instagram for a full year and it changed my life and rewired my brain. Now I have a password that locks me out after 30 min a day. I made my husband set the password and never tell me so I can’t override it. And even just 30 minutes of the dopamine hit is too much! I can feel such a difference in my heart and body mind when I indulge in those 30 minutes!
I can imagine this - a full year of rehabilitation to your brain and heart. I culled who I was following to 35 people so it’s deliberately more quiet and even that is still so much when I’ve jumped on quickly to post. Love your idea of having hubby set the password. Genius.
What a relief to read these words! I deleted my Instagram account completely a few months ago, and there’s not a single thing I miss about it. But I was wondering if there’s something wrong with me that I just cannot handle social media, that it makes me feel ick, and it always has. Everyone else I know seems fine with it so it’s validating to read your perspective.
I know several people who have none at all, so you’re not alone Geordie. It’s getting more and more ick because it’s getting harder for people to get attention. X
Agh! I had a deactivated account for a month and just came back this week. I’ve been writing about my journey consuming short form and its relationship with my spiritual life, family, and creativity.
Had been back on so I could repurpose my findings for people there… but idk, is it mission territory? Should I post and ghost and leave an automated message for DMs ? Is it worth being back?
I don’t know…
Anyway, thanks for this post Peta and keeping it real with your earnest wrestlings. Right there with you.
Yep!! Questions I ask too Camille. Everyone is going to have their sweet spot, depending on their perception. For some, it’s so worth it for their business that they just make it work- I’m just not in that camp right now because I’m not selling much at all… but if I was on a mission with something and it was super compelling, my perception of it might change. I have often thought that I’d jump on once a week, post a carousel of tid bits then get off. That sounds like a nice rhythm, if any Xx
I love this! I have been feeling the same and sharing about it too. Because of this, I decided not to hold back in my content and not care how many haters I get... It has been very freeing, I won't let herd mentality stop me. Thank you!
Brilliant exploration of this topic! I've been doing the same, off and on social since 2020 and finally got rid of IG last year. I put it back on my phone for about a week last month for a new business venture and it sucked me right back in. Lesson learned!
You really got me with "it teaches people to be rewarded for bad behavior". Lately I read something about success and it said I'd you in your heart believe some part of your path to be immoral you cannot be successful there. I'm starting to think this is why social media never kicked off for me - bc I just don't believe it's moral. Even if I break myself from the scroll, I don't want to contribute to the scroll addiction of others.
Loved this Peta. Thank you for sharing it raw and transparent our reality nowadays. We all need this, As carefully as we try to be about our phone usage and despite of our initial intentions, how easy and tempting it is to deviate.
As I was reading something came to me to ask you, have you read the book “Outwitting the Devil” x
You took the words out of my brain and heart + wrote them on Substack. I had second-hand catharsis reading this because I have a half written post sharing these same sentiments; the illusion of the personal development industry, my confusion, my dwindling tolerance for the performative nature of the app.
My question around whether or not to use Instagram has had me in a chokehold for months. If there’s one thing I am taking away from your post it’s this: write. Time to start my Substack. Your unfiltered truth + authenticity helped me see my own. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Loved reading this and feeling thankful that I don’t have to rely on my willpower versus IG power!
5 ish years ago I got a new phone and it logged me out of all my saved passwords and because I didn’t know my IG password I couldn’t log back in and I didn’t remember which email it is attached to.The small barrier of resetting the account has kept me safe! THEN a month or so later my Facebook account was hacked and I sent a bunch of spam emails to people and I got locked out of my account and that small barrier has kept me from ever getting back on there also. NOW I scroll the weather and puppy adds ! ( I currently have two dogs from
I deleted IG off my phone 6 weeks ago after feeling intensely suffocated by it. All the rules for growing a business had me in a strangle hold. It’s been so freeing being off there - and not at all shocking that finding a circle where I get to be with real women in real life talking about real shit has felt like a balm on my soul, not to mention opened more doors for my business than anything IG has offered up. I can feel it’s time coming to an end… and I’m happy to say it’s a funeral I’m eagerly anticipating. Thanks for saying it how it is Peta.
That is so cool-- also, that doors were opened for you when you followed what was true. XX
I got off instagram for a full year and it changed my life and rewired my brain. Now I have a password that locks me out after 30 min a day. I made my husband set the password and never tell me so I can’t override it. And even just 30 minutes of the dopamine hit is too much! I can feel such a difference in my heart and body mind when I indulge in those 30 minutes!
I can imagine this - a full year of rehabilitation to your brain and heart. I culled who I was following to 35 people so it’s deliberately more quiet and even that is still so much when I’ve jumped on quickly to post. Love your idea of having hubby set the password. Genius.
Feeeel this. I’ve seen the same. There’s a depth and context that you get in person, or even in long form vs. IG
What a relief to read these words! I deleted my Instagram account completely a few months ago, and there’s not a single thing I miss about it. But I was wondering if there’s something wrong with me that I just cannot handle social media, that it makes me feel ick, and it always has. Everyone else I know seems fine with it so it’s validating to read your perspective.
I know several people who have none at all, so you’re not alone Geordie. It’s getting more and more ick because it’s getting harder for people to get attention. X
Your content is so bloody refreshing and hits the spot, it inspires me so much and i fkn feel what your saying.
So glad ❤️❤️
The most life giving and honest piece of writing I have read in a very long time. Thank you forever and always putting words to the songs in my heart.
Thank you Elise x
I had the exact same thought this morning right after posting 🫣
It's a sneaky little thing isn't it? XX
And usually the moment I delete it I found many nuggets to share!
Bravo
Me too.
Agh! I had a deactivated account for a month and just came back this week. I’ve been writing about my journey consuming short form and its relationship with my spiritual life, family, and creativity.
Had been back on so I could repurpose my findings for people there… but idk, is it mission territory? Should I post and ghost and leave an automated message for DMs ? Is it worth being back?
I don’t know…
Anyway, thanks for this post Peta and keeping it real with your earnest wrestlings. Right there with you.
Yep!! Questions I ask too Camille. Everyone is going to have their sweet spot, depending on their perception. For some, it’s so worth it for their business that they just make it work- I’m just not in that camp right now because I’m not selling much at all… but if I was on a mission with something and it was super compelling, my perception of it might change. I have often thought that I’d jump on once a week, post a carousel of tid bits then get off. That sounds like a nice rhythm, if any Xx
Feeling this deeply! Would love to join a retreat of yours whenever it comes to fruition! 🥳
Will keep you posted!!
I love this! I have been feeling the same and sharing about it too. Because of this, I decided not to hold back in my content and not care how many haters I get... It has been very freeing, I won't let herd mentality stop me. Thank you!
Freedommmmm!!!!
This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning, thank you for your clarifying words!
Brilliant exploration of this topic! I've been doing the same, off and on social since 2020 and finally got rid of IG last year. I put it back on my phone for about a week last month for a new business venture and it sucked me right back in. Lesson learned!
You really got me with "it teaches people to be rewarded for bad behavior". Lately I read something about success and it said I'd you in your heart believe some part of your path to be immoral you cannot be successful there. I'm starting to think this is why social media never kicked off for me - bc I just don't believe it's moral. Even if I break myself from the scroll, I don't want to contribute to the scroll addiction of others.
I feel the same. Thanks Becca xx
Loved this Peta. Thank you for sharing it raw and transparent our reality nowadays. We all need this, As carefully as we try to be about our phone usage and despite of our initial intentions, how easy and tempting it is to deviate.
As I was reading something came to me to ask you, have you read the book “Outwitting the Devil” x
No I haven’t but that title is right up my alley, gonna grab it. Thanks Roberta! X
Beautiful Peta🙌
Thank you Kate x
You took the words out of my brain and heart + wrote them on Substack. I had second-hand catharsis reading this because I have a half written post sharing these same sentiments; the illusion of the personal development industry, my confusion, my dwindling tolerance for the performative nature of the app.
My question around whether or not to use Instagram has had me in a chokehold for months. If there’s one thing I am taking away from your post it’s this: write. Time to start my Substack. Your unfiltered truth + authenticity helped me see my own. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Yes, write!! X
Loved reading this and feeling thankful that I don’t have to rely on my willpower versus IG power!
5 ish years ago I got a new phone and it logged me out of all my saved passwords and because I didn’t know my IG password I couldn’t log back in and I didn’t remember which email it is attached to.The small barrier of resetting the account has kept me safe! THEN a month or so later my Facebook account was hacked and I sent a bunch of spam emails to people and I got locked out of my account and that small barrier has kept me from ever getting back on there also. NOW I scroll the weather and puppy adds ! ( I currently have two dogs from
this habit).
That sounds like a sweet life! X
Love this so much!!