Thanks Peta, wonderful post. Every year at Christmas my husband does a watercolour of a native bird or flower which we turn into a Christmas card & a stamp, which we send out to family & friends. Have a wonderful & safe Christmas.
Oh gosh yes!!! Just yes! I really want to feel full of spirit this year and be in the magic not stressing about it!!! Not sure how but will do my best! Fab post thank you xxx
Have the safest & jolliest Christmas season PKC🎄!….i felt the words you wrote, and personally spent many holidays as a young mom & wife burnt out; the perfectionism, the gift(s)of service which is me in a nutshell had zero boundaries around it. Followed by the shame cycle of feeling relieved & equally annoyed that is all over. But hey, everyone had the best time. I turn 50 next month, and this happy Capi gifted herself acupuncture & Chinese herbs/medicine, Chiro, lymphatic massage, longer walks, and deleted social media accounts (besides a teeny tiny private insta) that past 3 years. I had to prove to myself that I can chill the f*** out and not have to be a “meerkat”. My perimenopause was not having any part of it. What worked before is not now. She likes a regulated nervous system, and hormone regulation. So this holiday season that’s what I’m giving myself. A joyful & present nervous system with regulated hormones. I look forward to being the woman I’m becoming for my future grandchildren & currently my young adult children, we have so much fun. What a journey this self discovery and unfolding of layers really is.
Blessing’s in all its domains to you and yours my beautiful Aussie friend 🌹
Love and resonate with so much here! Especially the contagion theory lol! And the feeling of yuck after over consumption…I hadn’t ever put those two feelings together before and you’re sooo right! I’ve always wanted more more more and now that I can have more, it doesn’t actually fill my cup like I thought it would… how can I sit and be with my kids without my thoughts fleeing to all the things I gotta and should do?!
Haha the cringy Christmas movies. They can be life giving sometimes! I already watched a few myself lol. I think about the memories I want my son to have of me as he gets older and I do want it to be a relaxed and spirit filled one around the holidays. Typically I look forward to them being over with before they’ve begun because of how stressed out everyone else is. For the time being we have an early Christmas because I want a day where we aren’t traveling and trying to appease everyone else. And just yesterday I read an entry about a Thanksgiving/Christmas binder. I know it seems extra but for someone like me it actually seemed like a good idea to take the edge off and make life flow easier around the holidays. I think you would appreciate the strategy behind it. Merry Christmas Peta!
I am excited to read more about your homeopathic journey! I have been feeling the same way this season and shared some similar thoughts in my post yesterday, and will share in hopes it may bring your some solidarity and encouragement 🫶🏼 Your kiddos are so lucky to have a mum like you. In all the rushing you still see them, and more importantly, you see Him! That’s what I’m hoping to do this holiday season ♥️
My kids are older now, 11, 13, and 17!!!! I started your Supercharged mentoring when my third child was born and my life felt overwhelming to the 100th degree. I can relate to this soo much!
Birthdays and Christmas are my jam too! For some reason it’s how I express my magic and gratitude for my kids… to show them how much I love them. It’s over the top. And it’s not just for them, it’s to allow all their friends the space to have the most fun at birthday parties or for any reason to celebrate life! We are now known as the fun house where all kids can gather and feel their light and joy. But… I understand the consequences too! The last few parties I’ve hosted for them, I’ve asked for help so I could enjoy watching their joy from a place of peace.
I do still think the overthinking is the hardest role of motherhood. The constant juggle of thoughts: if their soccer clothes are washed, is their swim bag packed, how will they eat in between practices, how can I be two places at once in two different directions… who can I count on? Who is on my support team?
The teenage years have brought a whole next level thought overload on how do I teach them to protect their energy in large groups, how do I teach them a deep sense of self confidence and self worth, how do I support my girls when they face the very real “mean girls”, or body image concerns, or their own stress, overwhelm and anxiety about school, friendships, boys when growing through the middle school years.
Best thing my 13 year old daughter ever said to me is “mom, you have to stop, you are making me feel so confident about myself” (she knows I have her back even when mean girls tried to cut her down from their own insecurity or jealousy…and I’m kind to the mean girls cause I know they are hurting)
So… in whatever way you ever need, Peta, I hope you know I’m on your support team. So you can rest your mind and enjoy this beautiful life! Happy Thanksgiving and I’m forever grateful for you!
he makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters- Psalms 23:2
Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. - Matthew 11:29
I was just having this monologue with myself. I want to actually have a childlike spirit this advent. Waiting soberly, for the sweetest gift - a baby. I need a break from being myself! Lord, please help us from being ourselves! Praying for your travels- I know precisely what it’s like and it’s 😑
Thanks for a great post. I think it is so easy to over do things, especially at Christmas, trying to please everyone and not looking after yourself. I remember my mum crying most Christmases because she was tired and stressed more than the gifts. Having the happy, relaxed energy for the day is a gift for me over everything else now.
Thanks Peta, wonderful post. Every year at Christmas my husband does a watercolour of a native bird or flower which we turn into a Christmas card & a stamp, which we send out to family & friends. Have a wonderful & safe Christmas.
That is sooooo beautiful Jenny!
Oh gosh yes!!! Just yes! I really want to feel full of spirit this year and be in the magic not stressing about it!!! Not sure how but will do my best! Fab post thank you xxx
We’ve just got to do our best and remember what does and does not matter when we become overwhelmed . In it together! Xx
Have the safest & jolliest Christmas season PKC🎄!….i felt the words you wrote, and personally spent many holidays as a young mom & wife burnt out; the perfectionism, the gift(s)of service which is me in a nutshell had zero boundaries around it. Followed by the shame cycle of feeling relieved & equally annoyed that is all over. But hey, everyone had the best time. I turn 50 next month, and this happy Capi gifted herself acupuncture & Chinese herbs/medicine, Chiro, lymphatic massage, longer walks, and deleted social media accounts (besides a teeny tiny private insta) that past 3 years. I had to prove to myself that I can chill the f*** out and not have to be a “meerkat”. My perimenopause was not having any part of it. What worked before is not now. She likes a regulated nervous system, and hormone regulation. So this holiday season that’s what I’m giving myself. A joyful & present nervous system with regulated hormones. I look forward to being the woman I’m becoming for my future grandchildren & currently my young adult children, we have so much fun. What a journey this self discovery and unfolding of layers really is.
Blessing’s in all its domains to you and yours my beautiful Aussie friend 🌹
Love and resonate with so much here! Especially the contagion theory lol! And the feeling of yuck after over consumption…I hadn’t ever put those two feelings together before and you’re sooo right! I’ve always wanted more more more and now that I can have more, it doesn’t actually fill my cup like I thought it would… how can I sit and be with my kids without my thoughts fleeing to all the things I gotta and should do?!
Haha the cringy Christmas movies. They can be life giving sometimes! I already watched a few myself lol. I think about the memories I want my son to have of me as he gets older and I do want it to be a relaxed and spirit filled one around the holidays. Typically I look forward to them being over with before they’ve begun because of how stressed out everyone else is. For the time being we have an early Christmas because I want a day where we aren’t traveling and trying to appease everyone else. And just yesterday I read an entry about a Thanksgiving/Christmas binder. I know it seems extra but for someone like me it actually seemed like a good idea to take the edge off and make life flow easier around the holidays. I think you would appreciate the strategy behind it. Merry Christmas Peta!
https://shannonhood.substack.com/p/you-might-need-a-thanksgiving-binder?utm_campaign=posts-open-in-app&triedRedirect=true
Now I’m so curious to hear all of your thoughts on the contagion theory!
I am excited to read more about your homeopathic journey! I have been feeling the same way this season and shared some similar thoughts in my post yesterday, and will share in hopes it may bring your some solidarity and encouragement 🫶🏼 Your kiddos are so lucky to have a mum like you. In all the rushing you still see them, and more importantly, you see Him! That’s what I’m hoping to do this holiday season ♥️
https://open.substack.com/pub/taylorgracethomas/p/slow-down?r=20796w&utm_medium=ios
My kids are older now, 11, 13, and 17!!!! I started your Supercharged mentoring when my third child was born and my life felt overwhelming to the 100th degree. I can relate to this soo much!
Birthdays and Christmas are my jam too! For some reason it’s how I express my magic and gratitude for my kids… to show them how much I love them. It’s over the top. And it’s not just for them, it’s to allow all their friends the space to have the most fun at birthday parties or for any reason to celebrate life! We are now known as the fun house where all kids can gather and feel their light and joy. But… I understand the consequences too! The last few parties I’ve hosted for them, I’ve asked for help so I could enjoy watching their joy from a place of peace.
I do still think the overthinking is the hardest role of motherhood. The constant juggle of thoughts: if their soccer clothes are washed, is their swim bag packed, how will they eat in between practices, how can I be two places at once in two different directions… who can I count on? Who is on my support team?
The teenage years have brought a whole next level thought overload on how do I teach them to protect their energy in large groups, how do I teach them a deep sense of self confidence and self worth, how do I support my girls when they face the very real “mean girls”, or body image concerns, or their own stress, overwhelm and anxiety about school, friendships, boys when growing through the middle school years.
Best thing my 13 year old daughter ever said to me is “mom, you have to stop, you are making me feel so confident about myself” (she knows I have her back even when mean girls tried to cut her down from their own insecurity or jealousy…and I’m kind to the mean girls cause I know they are hurting)
So… in whatever way you ever need, Peta, I hope you know I’m on your support team. So you can rest your mind and enjoy this beautiful life! Happy Thanksgiving and I’m forever grateful for you!
he makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters- Psalms 23:2
Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. - Matthew 11:29
I was just having this monologue with myself. I want to actually have a childlike spirit this advent. Waiting soberly, for the sweetest gift - a baby. I need a break from being myself! Lord, please help us from being ourselves! Praying for your travels- I know precisely what it’s like and it’s 😑
Gorgeous verses! Thanks Nicole! And yep 🤪 we have travelled tonnes with two kiddos, but not yet with three. Bring it on! Xx
Thanks for a great post. I think it is so easy to over do things, especially at Christmas, trying to please everyone and not looking after yourself. I remember my mum crying most Christmases because she was tired and stressed more than the gifts. Having the happy, relaxed energy for the day is a gift for me over everything else now.
TOTALLY!!! X