Circadian biology is my area of focus, and I can't tell you enough how excited I was to read this! When I talk about "light diet" I often get eye rolls or complete dismissal, but your words (that I trust so much) gave me hope. Cheers to biological living!
Oh awesome! Go get em ! I think many will be looking to learn more about it in coming years. Do you follow @Nikko Kennedy on here? (not sure why I can’t tag her)… you probably do. X
Thank you for this beautiful collection of thoughts. There is such freedom in leaning into the journey God has prepared for us, rather than living by lists of hacks that often do little to truly nourish and refresh us.
I hope your husband heals well and that you all find a good routine for the time together! 💚
Great stuff Peta as always ... I'm turning 67 this year and I've referenced before, I too grew up without a father (he left when I was 9), and learned to do everything a man/husband would do for my Mom and I. I prided myself (still do but for different reasons) on not needing a male, and that I could bring added value to relationships (because I thought I wasn't "enough" on my own). There was a certain amount of resilience I felt by not being vulnerable and not being blindsided again. When I got married and we lived a 60-90 minute drive from the downtown where my husband worked, I was alone 12-13 hours a day, raising the kids (all born within 3 years). And I became the general contractor for all our renovations while doing this. But I also kept an aesthetically beautiful home, and pretty table settings are still my fave thing to do. I looked after everything except my husband's car and the investments. I looked after the maintenance and repairs of everything, either doing them myself or finding somebody else that could. Whenever I filled out forms that asked what I did for a living (not legal ones), I would say "I run a small boutique hotel" because I did, and I looked after everybody's needs ... except my own. I ran ragged making everybody else happy. I wholeheartedly agree with what your insights are and the value of them, I would just add that it is important to also seek a partner that truly appreciates what you do, and shows it. That is not the case for me. I was also trying to look after everything so my husband could go to work and not have to worry about anything else so he could do what he loves, and I was so grateful to be a tay-at-home Mom because my Mom couldn't and it was a very lonely childhood wearing a key around my neck and letting myself in to our apartment to eat lunch in an empty place, and the same after school until she got home at 6:00 p.m. Two weeks ago we had to put down our little shitzu-poodle Darling, who was 18 years old and went everywhere with me, like also we had 40 flights together she and I, to the Bahamas and back. I was a blithering mess and my husband who typically just ignores me and tells me to "get over" things, was somewhat softer with me and said "I never see this softer side of you, it makes me want to protect you, you're usually so strong and capable that I never feel this way". This was quite something, because in almost 40 years, he will not talk about anything to do with us. I told him that, yes I am strong and capable, but that doesn't mean I don't need gentleness, softness, and appreciation from him, and that I don't need to be protected by him. That I looked after everything out of gratitude of being able to stay home with the kids. Long story short, all you say is true and so important, but it's also important to choose a partner that appreciates you and that doesn't treat your like an inferior or get frustrated when you do need something, and that shares the financial decisions with you and has discussions about them. Otherwise, if your marriage does end up for whatever reasons where you want to leave, you are completely in the dark about your financial situation, investments, trusts, etc. and feel powerless and a victim. Truth is, my husband never wanted to do the things most men would look after, and when I did/do ask for help (which was rarely and only if I couldn't do it myself), he resented it and usually wouldn't for whatever reason. Ultimately the goal would be to embrace being a nurturing homemaker and providing a comforting home, AND with somebody that still treated you like an equal and involved you in financial decisions because you are a team.
In equal parts an invitation and a mandate. It gives me chills to consider how many of us are finding our way through the complexity of hyper independence, of having to do and know it all, to a place of deep trust and surrender.
This cut right through to my soul in a way I didn't know was possible. It resonates more than I expected it to, and for that alone, this is a gift. I will be coming back to these words time and time again this year. Thank you for your wisdom!🤍
Love this Peta. I’m slowly emerging into this season of my life and letting it be as wonderful as it was designed to be. Thank you for creating words to articulate this transition ✨
Circadian biology is my area of focus, and I can't tell you enough how excited I was to read this! When I talk about "light diet" I often get eye rolls or complete dismissal, but your words (that I trust so much) gave me hope. Cheers to biological living!
Oh awesome! Go get em ! I think many will be looking to learn more about it in coming years. Do you follow @Nikko Kennedy on here? (not sure why I can’t tag her)… you probably do. X
Perfection bravo I will be reading this many times
YES 👏👏👏
Holy wow…I am so on this wavelength.👏🏻
❤️
Delighting in these peaceful and powerful words. I am so glad substack put you in my feed!
This just fed my SOUL!
Thank you for this beautiful collection of thoughts. There is such freedom in leaning into the journey God has prepared for us, rather than living by lists of hacks that often do little to truly nourish and refresh us.
I hope your husband heals well and that you all find a good routine for the time together! 💚
Beautiful. Thank you 🤍
Great stuff Peta as always ... I'm turning 67 this year and I've referenced before, I too grew up without a father (he left when I was 9), and learned to do everything a man/husband would do for my Mom and I. I prided myself (still do but for different reasons) on not needing a male, and that I could bring added value to relationships (because I thought I wasn't "enough" on my own). There was a certain amount of resilience I felt by not being vulnerable and not being blindsided again. When I got married and we lived a 60-90 minute drive from the downtown where my husband worked, I was alone 12-13 hours a day, raising the kids (all born within 3 years). And I became the general contractor for all our renovations while doing this. But I also kept an aesthetically beautiful home, and pretty table settings are still my fave thing to do. I looked after everything except my husband's car and the investments. I looked after the maintenance and repairs of everything, either doing them myself or finding somebody else that could. Whenever I filled out forms that asked what I did for a living (not legal ones), I would say "I run a small boutique hotel" because I did, and I looked after everybody's needs ... except my own. I ran ragged making everybody else happy. I wholeheartedly agree with what your insights are and the value of them, I would just add that it is important to also seek a partner that truly appreciates what you do, and shows it. That is not the case for me. I was also trying to look after everything so my husband could go to work and not have to worry about anything else so he could do what he loves, and I was so grateful to be a tay-at-home Mom because my Mom couldn't and it was a very lonely childhood wearing a key around my neck and letting myself in to our apartment to eat lunch in an empty place, and the same after school until she got home at 6:00 p.m. Two weeks ago we had to put down our little shitzu-poodle Darling, who was 18 years old and went everywhere with me, like also we had 40 flights together she and I, to the Bahamas and back. I was a blithering mess and my husband who typically just ignores me and tells me to "get over" things, was somewhat softer with me and said "I never see this softer side of you, it makes me want to protect you, you're usually so strong and capable that I never feel this way". This was quite something, because in almost 40 years, he will not talk about anything to do with us. I told him that, yes I am strong and capable, but that doesn't mean I don't need gentleness, softness, and appreciation from him, and that I don't need to be protected by him. That I looked after everything out of gratitude of being able to stay home with the kids. Long story short, all you say is true and so important, but it's also important to choose a partner that appreciates you and that doesn't treat your like an inferior or get frustrated when you do need something, and that shares the financial decisions with you and has discussions about them. Otherwise, if your marriage does end up for whatever reasons where you want to leave, you are completely in the dark about your financial situation, investments, trusts, etc. and feel powerless and a victim. Truth is, my husband never wanted to do the things most men would look after, and when I did/do ask for help (which was rarely and only if I couldn't do it myself), he resented it and usually wouldn't for whatever reason. Ultimately the goal would be to embrace being a nurturing homemaker and providing a comforting home, AND with somebody that still treated you like an equal and involved you in financial decisions because you are a team.
In equal parts an invitation and a mandate. It gives me chills to consider how many of us are finding our way through the complexity of hyper independence, of having to do and know it all, to a place of deep trust and surrender.
I will be reading this over and over again because it is 1000% what I needed to hear and work towards. Thank you, always.
This cut right through to my soul in a way I didn't know was possible. It resonates more than I expected it to, and for that alone, this is a gift. I will be coming back to these words time and time again this year. Thank you for your wisdom!🤍
Love this so much!✨💕
I LOVE this💜 so amazing to see the current way that’s most are living with such a different perspective ✨ thank you
Love this Peta. I’m slowly emerging into this season of my life and letting it be as wonderful as it was designed to be. Thank you for creating words to articulate this transition ✨
You’re speaking my language and it’s life giving 🤎