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Georgia Rhodes's avatar

Love so much about this Peta but this — “The spiritual growth I need right now is not to ‘get things more right’, it is to trust that I am safe to get things wrong, that I am loved even when I do, and that the people I love are held by my Father and not just by me.” — I absolutely adore. I think we all need this. Thank you for your beautiful words. They are a delight to read, as I sit outside in the winters sun, this afternoon. X

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Peta Kelly's avatar

Thank you Georgia ❤️❤️

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Jenny Bailey's avatar

Absolutely fantastic Peta, thank you. My Dad used to say that "Religion is the enemy of Christianity" and he was right. He devoted his whole life to understanding the Bible message and following God's way. I am the youngest and I can relate to a lot of what you have said about being the eldest.

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Peta Kelly's avatar

I bet you've got some amazing wisdom from him. Thanks Jenny!!

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Tiffany Writes's avatar

Another eldest daughter here. I have thoughts & words, so many. I will come back later & pop some here but as a start - thank you 🧡🙏🏻🧡

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Peta Kelly's avatar

My pleasure Tiffany X

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Lunnah Dalsgård's avatar

Oh I feel this deep in my (eldest daughter) bones. The need to get things right. To prevent pain and sufflering in those I love. And giving up my own life and joy in that proces. I’m in the proces of allowing myself to get it wrong and as you said - still be loved for it. It contradicts all my deeply ingrained impulses. But I feel there is s hole new way of living my life on the other side of this. So THANK YOU for sharing this piece. It resonates deeply 🫶🏻❤️🌱🕊

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Paloma Lyon's avatar

Thank you, Peta. I always love reading your work. I'm not the eldest daughter—I'm the only daughter with three brothers—yet I still understand where you're coming from. So much of what you expressed I have felt, experienced, and questioned. Thank you for mirroring my experience and putting it into words 💋🙏🏽✨

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Share Your Perspective's avatar

As an eldest daughter who recently took back the rights to my own creative expression, I want to thank you for this tremendous piece. Raw, vulnerable, empowering. Grateful for you as inspiration. Thank you!!!

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Liana's avatar

The way you write is just soooo good. Eldest daughter here and related to every word. Especially in my faith. The surrendering and the letting go of control. It’s so hard. The watching a movie without your blue blockers, so funny because it’s true. Keep the raw journal entries coming! Soooo relatable. 💕

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Marissa Baumgartner's avatar

YEP! Your raw form rambles are my absolute favorite. It's amazing what comes through when we let our authenticity shine. Oldest daughter with 3 younger brothers and 1 little sister of a blended family. I love this so much and all the ways it reminds us to "lighten up." Much love, peta!

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Leo's Pages's avatar

Oh this is a tre gem! Thank you for your lovely words ❣️

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Robin Ernst's avatar

Dearrrrr Lorrrrrrd

Yes yes yes yes yes

Love,

Robin

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Motherwood's avatar

Just beautiful! Thanks PK ! Eldest daughter popping off right here ☺️😘♥️

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Brittany A.M. ꩜'s avatar

What a powerful morning read for me — a youngest daughter — who sees so much of myself in your words and experience. You took some of my feelings right out of my heart and smacked them into yours.

Thanks, as always, Peta

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Rachael Lynn's avatar

As an only child eldest daughter of divorce I feel this wholeheartedly. Teared up a bit. I was just journaling to myself how (something you’ve already talked about) I don’t want to homestead but maybe I want someone else to help us do like, a garden? 😅 I want to still get mani pedis but without the nail polish? I want to look fashionable but without wearing foundation? Anyway this is for me to say how I’m figuring out how to do things the way I want to do them instead of taking all those things (people) you mention into consideration. Maybe it’s our age, too? That almost 40 every decade we care less/ get more clear because we have been put through some ringers but still have Faith and see beauty? Thank you 🙏

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Emily's avatar

Speaking right to me! Thank you for your words.

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